how is it ok when i guy rejects a girl its like ‘oh she wasn’t pretty/ thin/ hot/ etc enough for him, but god forbid a giRL TURNS DOWN A GUY ‘HOLY FUCK HE WAS NICE TO YOU JUST BECAUSE YOU AREN’T ATTRACTED TO HIM YOU SHOULD AT LEAST PITY DATE HIM OR HE WILL FUCKING GO OUT AND KILL A BUNCH OF GIRLS’
This is the big, scary truth about trauma: there is no such thing as “getting over it.” The five stages of grief model marks universal stages in learning to accept loss, but the reality is in fact much bigger: a major life disruption leaves a new normal in its wake. There is no “back to the old me.” You are different now, full stop.
This is not a wholly negative thing. Healing from trauma can also mean finding new strength and joy. The goal of healing is not a papering-over of changes in an effort to preserve or present things as normal. It is to acknowledge and wear your new life — warts, wisdom, and all — with courage. Catherine Woodiwiss, “A New Normal: Ten Things I’ve Learned About Trauma” (via makojaeger)
first a girl gets stabbed and killed by a dude at school because she refused to go to prom with him
now seven women are dead and more are injured because some idiot tool felt like sex or even attention from women was something that was somehow “owed” to him
how many more times does this have to happen before we start getting it through our heads that male entitlement fucking kills people