Gnossienne n. a moment of awareness that someone you’ve known for years still has a private and mysterious inner life, and somewhere in the hallways of their personality is a door locked from the inside, a stairway leading to a wing of the house that you’ve never fully explored—an unfinished attic that will remain maddeningly unknowable to you, because ultimately neither of you has a map, or a master key, or any way of knowing exactly where you stand. (via nyctaeus)

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how is it ok when i guy rejects a girl its like ‘oh she wasn’t pretty/ thin/ hot/ etc enough for him, but god forbid a giRL TURNS DOWN A GUY ‘HOLY FUCK HE WAS NICE TO YOU JUST BECAUSE YOU AREN’T ATTRACTED TO HIM YOU SHOULD AT LEAST PITY DATE HIM OR HE WILL FUCKING GO OUT AND KILL A BUNCH OF GIRLS’

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Trauma permanently changes us.

This is the big, scary truth about trauma: there is no such thing as “getting over it.” The five stages of grief model marks universal stages in learning to accept loss, but the reality is in fact much bigger: a major life disruption leaves a new normal in its wake. There is no “back to the old me.” You are different now, full stop.

This is not a wholly negative thing. Healing from trauma can also mean finding new strength and joy. The goal of healing is not a papering-over of changes in an effort to preserve or present things as normal. It is to acknowledge and wear your new life — warts, wisdom, and all — with courage. Catherine Woodiwiss, “A New Normal: Ten Things I’ve Learned About Trauma” (via makojaeger)

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